Breaking up with the love of your life is like going backward. That person who was next to you for years, whom you did everything with, and who was the first to know whatever you wanted to share, has now disappeared, so you find yourself back to square one. The worst part is that you feel as if you’ve gone backward and people around you moved forward. They’re going on with their own lives and have no time to deal with someone who was left behind.

How to overcome a breakup isn’t something you’ll find in the pages of a book. Therefore, reading the books I am mentioning won’t make you spontaneously forget that person who left, nor will they restore happiness in your life, but they can help you deal with the situation in other ways. Among optimistic, pessimistic, and even frightening interpretations, these books will show you love’s many faces so that you can identify with each of them. Some of them show the growing love that only lives in your memories; others deal with the same situation you’re in, and some more will even show you the other side of the coin, that is, what your ex is dealing with.

The healing is that makes you stronger, kinder, and braver — if you let it.

1. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

The Alchemist is not a breakup book. It is a story of transformation that explains the need for a Personal Legend in all of our lives. The Alchemist tells the story of a shepherd boy who has a recurring dream, which he believes to be a prophecy and he sets out in search of a treasure. Along the way, the boy meets a seer, an old king, an Englishman, an Arabian woman, and ultimately an Alchemist, who introduces the concept of a Personal Legend and teaches him about destiny and following your own path in life. The reason I think that this is a great book to read when you have a wounded heart is that it helps to put life into perspective, and it opens your mind to the larger path of your life and learning. The Alchemist is a timeless treasure, but it can be a particularly valuable treasure when you are feeling wounded.

2. This Is How You Lose Her by Junot Diaz

This book is not for everyone. The protagonist of the book is not a very easy guy to like. He is a serial cheater. And this book is a snapshot of the times he spent with different women. I read it all in one sitting because strangely I felt attached to the guy right from page one. I knew he was flawed and things he did were not the things any woman can forgive easily. But I think all he needed was love.
The writing is rich in certain places but so subtle in others that as a reader you can’t think about it after you have finished the book. I can only wish every book I come across is like that. Although at the same time I was left confused by the abrupt ending of some chapters. Anyway, I am glad I read this. I loved the protagonist’s character. He was the hero and the villain of his own story. Like we usually are in our own lives.

3. Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

A celebrated writer’s irresistible, candid, and eloquent account of her pursuit of worldly pleasure, spiritual devotion, and what she really wanted out of life.
This was one of those books I will read over and over again. All those cynics out there who criticize Gilbert for writing a “too cutesy” memoir that seems beyond belief and who claims that she is selfish for leaving her responsibility are clearly missing the point. First, she did not write the book to inspire you. She wrote it as her own memoir–you can agree or disagree with how she went about her “enlightenment,” but you cannot judge her for how she found happiness. It is her memoir, not yours. You can achieve enlightenment by whatever means you want. Second, to call her irresponsible for leaving responsibilities behind is absurd. She was in an unhappy marriage. You cannot force yourself to be happy. I applaud her for doing something that many people are afraid to do. She had no children and so the responsibilities she neglected were minimal.
Now is the time, you should be a little more self-indulgent yourself. What say? 😉

4. The Breakup Bible by Mellissa Kantor

I stumbled upon The Breakup Bible after googling “books to read when you’re heartbroken”… I believe the reason for this particular search is pretty obvious and doesn’t need to be explained.
Thing is, I honestly didn’t expect much from this book but I’m glad to be proven wrong (especially in times like this). This book will not mend your heart and get you back out there after a bad experience but it will definitely help you take some first steps towards that goal.

5. If We Ever Break Up, This Is My Book by Jason Logan

Simple drawings reveal an almost too-intimate knowledge of the process of grieving for a lost relationship and the experience of dealing, moving on, and getting back out there, so to speak. Wry, cute, sentimental.
Sometimes a book arrives in your life at exactly the right moment. The title leaped out at me right away and the book and I were never apart for the remainder of my stay. It was my constant companion, laughing at the same jokes, handing me a tissue for my tears, and always, always ready with a cheese plate for culinary comfort. I am far from recently single, but this book addresses the care and feeding of the broken heart like no other. Every page is like an entire self-help book distilled into just the briefest of illustrated quips, and it’s far more effective without the fluff. Go get it right now. And if you happen to run into Jason Logan, tell him I believe him. Everything is going to be okay. A girl can hope, right?

6. Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell

Two misfits, one extraordinary love.

An excerpt from the book –

“I don’t like you, Park,” she said, sounding for a second like she actually meant it. “I…” – her voice nearly disappeared – “think I live for you.”
He closed his eyes and pressed his head back into his pillow.
“I don’t think I even breathe when we’re not together,” she whispered. “Which means, when I see you on Monday morning, it’s been like sixty hours since I’ve taken a breath. That’s probably why I’m so crabby, and why I snap at you. All I do when we’re apart is think about you, and all I do when we’re together is panic. Because every second feels so important. And because I’m so out of control, I can’t help myself. I’m not even mine anymore, I’m yours, and what if you decide that you don’t want me? How could you want me like I want you?”
He was quiet. He wanted everything she’d just said to be the last thing he heard. He wanted to fall asleep with ‘I want you’ in his ears.”

From start to finish, I was enthralled with ‘Eleanor & Park’. I was sure that this would be a 5-star read for me right up until about the 90% mark. Then, the story ended rather abruptly and I was left wanting. I couldn’t believe that the author that wrote such a beautiful story would end it in that way. It just didn’t seem fair or right. After everything, I was furious to see it close in the manner it did.
Overall, it was still a fabulous story. I won’t lie. I hated the way that the story ended. I just don’t need my fiction to be that true to life. One of my fave reads ever.

7. Our Chemical Hearts by Krystal Sutherland

One of those, “Why did I take so long to read this book?” This book broke my heart a little bit.
So this is certainly not a story of love at first sight.
But it is a love story.
Kind of.

What on earth was this book? It made me feel all these strange, strange emotions and I’m still trying to figure it out?
Our main character, Henry, is a lovable child who is a total hopeless romantic and meets this very odd girl, Grace Town, at school. She’s totally weird and in the most fascinating of ways. She hobbles in the room with a cane and prominent limp, she owns a car that she doesn’t EVER drive, and is so existential is kind of depressing.
But in her strangeness, she is beautiful.
Let me just point out that this was Krystal Sutherland’s DEBUT novel, like wow, lady, I’m impressed.
The friendships in this book, mainly Murray and Lola was honestly a highlight to my day. They’re hilarious and real and annoying and loving and basically everything you want in best friends.
Also, Henry’s relationship with his older sister, Sadie, is beautiful. Everything about this book is dismal and beautiful and hilarious just read it and laugh and tear up and be shaking at all the events that take place.

‘But love is scientific, man. I mean, it’s really just a chemical reaction in the brain. Sometimes that reaction lasts a lifetime, repeating itself over and over again. And sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it goes supernova and then starts to fade. We’re all just chemical hearts.

I love this book. it deals with grief and letting go. Justice and redemption in the most meaningful way. My heart and my soul explodes like a firework.

Which one have you read already, let me know in comments. 🙂 🙂