I distinctly remember the exact moment when I realized that our love would live forever in the past. I was at loss for words.
I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know what to think. I didn’t know how to stand. I didn’t know if I should keep my hands inside or outside of my pockets.
My heart was racing. The wind was knocked out of me. I couldn’t spend another second talking to him, because I knew I was about to break down. Love isn’t just about the emotions you’re feeling. It’s about what this person means to you.
It’s about the place he or she has in your life as well as your heart. When you realize that your loved one is in love with someone else, you see that the life you thought you’d have is no longer possible.
Then you do your best to figure out how to cope with it.
There is one positive outcome from this: You shed excess. You let go of the stress and worry of not knowing how things will turn out, because now you know the answer.
You learn to steer your thoughts away from your ex, and you discover that you have more time for other areas of your life.
The part of you that just died gives room for growth. You now have a partially blank slate. You get the opportunity to rewrite and redefine the person you are.
From the ashes of your love rises a new you.
You start to once again get a grasp on your life, your reality and your future.